I am going to tell you 9 things I’ve learned this year about how to thrive in any environment. I’ve already spoken about many of them in my previous articles but this time I will explain how I think they are a key element in thriving in any environment not matter how toxic or wonderful it is. So here they are:
1- Stay away from toxic people:
To do this, you need to first understand what toxic people are. While everyone will make their own definition of “toxic people”, for me toxic people are people who demonstrate “aggressive” and/or “manipulative” behaviors.
It is very simple, if someone is making you feel bad for any reason, or is mean or unfair to you try to avoid being around them. Even if these people do not hurt you, if you notice that their behaviors are ill-intended or dishonest then you’ve spotted a toxic person that you need to avoid as much as you can.
2- Love and take care of yourself:
I used to be very harsh on myself, every time something goes wrong I would beat myself up for days. This made me often hate and neglect myself. It was not nice trust me! I was depressed and angry most of the time and it really made things worse. I performed badly and I even lost a lot of great opportunities with this attitude. I finally learned that mistakes are part of life and that they are actually essential but what’s most important is that we need to always love and look after ourselves especially during tough times.
3- Yoga and meditation will set you free:
I spoke a lot about the power of yoga and meditation before and I am including it in this article too because I’ve never had anything as helpful as these practices. Just 5 minutes of each every morning will set your mood for the day and will have a great impact on your performance.
4- Do things that you enjoy:
I love to paint, play music, read and write. I have joined the work force since 2012 and before that I had school so I had a really hard time for a few years now managing my duties and my hobbies. The benefit of doing an activity you enjoy is truly tremendous not only does it help you release stress but it also makes you feel more confident about yourself. Not having time to do this is a lie so instead of wasting hours on social media websites use that time to do something active, something you actually enjoy doing, something that makes you feel happy!
5- Spend on learning and new experiences:
Some people work to earn money and then spend it on things the they need, want or things they just thought it would be cool to have. I fell in this trap before until I discovered Ramit Sethi. Now, I know what I should and should not spend on, either essential things or things that procure a new experience or help me learn something new. This helps me feel in control of my income and allows me to save money and feel relatively free economically.
6- Compliment people:
Everyone is a beautiful soul and by helping people see that you thrive so never hesitate to compliment the people in your life.
7- Reading helps you more than anything else:
This is really self-explanatory. I never leave without a book in my bag. There is no such thing as a bad book. I am currently reading Think Like a Freak. I probably should write a review of this book along with the two other books I read before it Freakonomics and Superfreakonomics.
8- Our subconscious is a real thing and it really hates us:
Our subconscious stores our memories to determine how we will react to or feel about new environments. Its role is to keep us in our comfort zone. Instead of trying to understand our feelings or reactions we sometimes repress them. It is important to always pay attention to how our subconscious leads us to behave and look for the reasons why we are angry or why we feel bad although we don’t really know why.
9- Be assertive:
Know your rights and others’ rights, respect them and if anyone intrudes your personal space you need to stop them in a non-aggressive, non-manipulative way. This is a learned behavior and I am currently learning it myself and I will share with you my progress so stay tuned!